![]() ![]() Perfectionism is a hard habit to get out of but it can be done: Procrastination is another by-product as you may put off doing things because they have to be perfect! This can be driven by fear of failure or rejection. This can lead to imposter syndrome, where you feel like a fraud, afraid of being ‘found out’ at any minute. The reality is probably that everyone else sees you as fine and often excellent. ![]() Perfectionism can also lead to anxiety and low self-esteem as you are driven by the fear of not being good enough. It is pernicious as it deprives you of ever having a real sense of achievement or feeling good about yourself or what you have done. Social media doesn’t help as everyone presents their perfect image to the world – no matter how imperfect they might feel inside.ĭo you recognise any of yourself in this? It’s probably been going on for a long time. It can be how you look, dress, walk, talk. Unfortunately, it is not only about academic perfection or getting everything right at work. This feeds the idea that you must be perfect to be acceptable. Then the sense of failure or inadequacy if you don’t attain it. There has been a constant raising of the bar. Starting from SATs through to your degree classification. Right from the word go, you have been judged against a set of standards. It's not surprising that so many people fall into the trap of perfectionism. This can apply across the board - how you look, sound and behave as well as what you do or achieve. Where you are super-critical, blind to the good bits and only focussing on the (often imagined or unimportant) errors. Where you judge everything you do against some impossibly high standard you have set for yourself. Where you feel that unless you are perfect (which is impossible), you are useless or unacceptable. Unhelpful perfectionism is where you feel that whatever you do is never good enough. This is when perfectionism becomes unhelpful and even damaging. However, there is a big difference between doing this in certain areas of your life and feeling that it applies to everything you do and are. Striving for excellence is useful, and at times vital.
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